By Karen Dikson
Success today is overrated. There’s a widespread mentality that every one of us can be successful if we truly want to—that’s bull, and there are so many reasons why this can never be true. Successful people become successful only after doing tons and tons of hard work and experiencing failures, something that most people don’t realize.
There are also certain actions that keep us from reaching our goals. If any of these actions sound like something you’re doing, stop doing them now—and you will increase your chances of achieving success.
1. Wanting different results, but not changing your actions.
How many times have you tried to achieve something, only to fail over and over again? Albert Einstein said, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Pretty harsh, but very true.
The most dangerous trap here is that you may be stuck in the past. If you’re doing the something over and over again, and you still don’t get different results, then you really have a problem that must be solved immediately. Here’s how you should approach this situation:
- Stop whatever you’re doing and analyze very carefully the actions you perform every day.
- Think about the bigger picture, and avoid thinking short term. Sometimes, our goals become confused because we’re on a roll and we never take a break to reassess whatever we’re trying to reach.
- Start identifying any actions that are not productive, and stop performing them
- Identify actions you’ve never taken that can bring you whatever result you expect, and immediately start taking action.
- Always trace your results; think of it as a cause and effect principle. Ask yourself from time to time: “Are the actions I am taking (cause) bringing me the desired results (effect)?
2. Looking for shortcuts to success.
If you believe that success comes without a price, you’re wrong; if you believe success is easy, or can be achieved quickly, you’re wrong again. Please, do yourself a favor and get rid of these false beliefs and quickly begin seeing success how it actually is: hard work, commitment, consistency, failure, time, disappointments, and the list goes on.
Here’s a really interesting way of looking at success:
A person has to remember that the road to success is always under construction. You have to get that through your head. That it is not easy becoming successful.”—Steve Harvey
There are no tricks, no shortcuts, no “magic pills” here. And if you’ve seen those fancy ads that promise you the jackpot if you do X simple action, believe me, it’s all fake. This is how smart people take money from desperate, mediocre people, who actually buy those promises believing they’ll actually make it. Ninety-nine percent end up reading the same regurgitated nonsense that’s all over the internet, and never achieve the success they want.
3. Waiting for a ‘right time’ to get started.
You can keep lying to yourself and say that you will start that project tomorrow, or the next week, or the next month, or when the “right time” comes. Yes, do that…then you have more chances of spending your entire life being mediocre, planning and procrastinating and waiting for that “special moment” or that big breakthrough that will allow you to achieve success.