What do you really think? What would happen if you just said it?
What do you really want? What would happen if you just asked for it?
What are you really feeling? What would happen if you just expressed it?
What are you really wondering? What would happen if you just inquired about it?
Everyday people do and say things that the rest of us want to do and say. They jump head first into the oozy soup of life knowing that they might get jabbed by a few chicken bones. Most of us are spectators – living vicariously through those we admire.
Funny, a friend wrote me a note saying she thought I was one of the jumpers. I needed to hear that because I have been feeling like a spectator. We all have moments of brilliance and other times where we watch while curled up in the corner.
What would it mean to jump head first into life today? What should you do or say that would shift who you are being?
Fellow ThirdAge blogger Doug wrote this great post about creating a to-be list (as opposed to a to-do list). Here’s a snippet:
Being and doing – these are the two domains of human existence. A
person´s "being´ is their boundless, timeless natural self. Their
"doing´ is the expression of that nature within form (activities) and
time. Being is our "identity´. Doing is our "career´. When we are most
healthy and vital, we connect identity with career – who we are with
what we do. Conversely, those with careers completely disconnected from
their natural self eventually experience ill-health and exhaustion.
Clearly, being and doing are equally important for creating and
maintaining a fulfilling and meaningful existence.
While both BE and DO are important for results and satisfaction, I think that if the to-be is not right, the to-do will surely be off as well.
A to-be list for the courageous:
- I will be a player today,not a pawn. Only when playing will something happen.
- I will be bold and have the guts to say what needs to be said in meetings and conversations. The consequences of silence are far greater than productive candor.
- I will not play the victim. I will be in control and responsible.
- I will be contribution and hold myself to a high standard. I am an amazing and talented person who ought to contribute fully.
- If I am in the wrong place, I will be action and take steps today to get where I need to go. I will take steps tomorrow. I will take steps – even baby steps – until I get there.
- I will be thankful. My life is amazing and I am lucky. I have riches, opportunity, and love. There is nothing more I need except to see and be thankful for this.
- I will be genuinely happy for others who courageously excel.
When we hear stories of clever and determined people who make it big with a concept that started small, we might envy them. On the surface we might assume that it is their results we envy – the success, the wealth, the notoriety. But I think we envy their courage more than anything. We know that we are capable of equivalent or greater success. Perhaps we are melancholy because we are not being courageous.