Donny Deutsch recently interviewed Ann Curry, and while I could go on and on about the great things that she shared about her life, working and having children, one idea really stuck with me, so that is what I will write about today.
Ann stated that her dad was in the military and traveled a lot, sometimes for six months at a time. Yet when he returned home, she always remembered him as though he’d never left, and she felt this way because she knew that he was connected with her.
How often during times of business do we focus so much on work that we forget about our family? It’s only human, so you can’t beat yourself up about it, but I do believe you can make yourself aware, so that the next time this starts to happen you can snap out of it.
Even when we are working, we can connect with our kids. In fact, Donny said that his dad worked a lot but that he knew that his dad was doing it because he loved him and he wanted to provide. This is something that we can teach our kids.
How can we make sure that we are connected?
- Make eye contact. Ann said this was one thing that her father always did: He looked her in the eyes, and she knew how much he loved her when he did.
- Make sure we are there mentally when we are home. Leave work at work as often as you can, even if you work from home. Shut that office door and return to your family. Listen to your children when they speak. Look at your children when they speak. Talk to your children. Let them know that they are important.
- Do things together. Sometimes this is tough. We are tired. Bills and laundry and duties pile up. But it is okay to drop these things and walk outside with your kids. Throw a frisbee, take a bike ride, or play at the park. Don’t just have your children do these things: Get out there and do them with your children, so they know that you are actually enjoying the time that you spend with them.