I posted recently that I am attempting to regain some ‘me’ time over this next year. This has been one of my goals lately, and it has taken some restructuring of my time and work schedule to do so.
I posted, too, that it is not always easy. Finding that time, making that time, requires commitment.
It also requires some good time management skills.
Remember our busy mother Leanne Davis?
She, like many of us, is struggling with time management.
When you work full time, take care of the house, commute, take care of kids, and do a variety of other tasks, you must arrange your time to fit it all in. Yet there are only 24 hours of the day, and at least a few of those must be reserved for sleeping!
I recently asked Marianne Emma Jeff, a professional Success Coach and owner of Motivate Myself, what it is women can do to maintain better time management skills.
Jeff said this: “There are three basic principles that you can apply to anything you want.”
- Where are you right now
- Where do you want to be
- Where is the gap
She goes on to say that time is the great equalizer; we all get the same amount, no matter how much money or how many kids we have.
To begin finding more time, or better managing your time, start off by tracking where you are right now. Where does your time go? One tool for this is www.rescuetime.com. Jeff says that by tracking your time you can see where it is it is going. Don’t try to do this after the fact: Write down what you are doing as you are doing it. When you go back and try to find the hours you’ve lost, sometimes its simply impossible. Jeff writes:
A great thing about being honest
about where you are spending your time is that it highlights the sacrifices you
are making by saying “yes” to things that perhaps are not a high priority for
you. When you see in black and white that volunteering, facebook or lingering
at the office are taking up valuable chunks of time it gets easier to say “no”.
Next, create an ideal week. What is it that you want? Do you want to work less, or have more ‘me’ time? For myself, I need more ‘me time’ as this is something I can honestly say I have not tried to have since I became a mother. I carved time for my family, my kids, my spouse,and my work, but never just for ‘me.’ For some reasons, mothers often feel guilt about demanding me time. Why? This is something we all need.
How much time do you want, or need? I’d like half an hour a day. Now, to me this sounds like too much. Half an hour? I could be clipping coupons, getting work done, writing a report, or playing with the children. However, taking half an hour for myself still leaves 23 1/2 hours in the day. When looked at like this, half an hour doesn’t sound so bad!