I had to
travel with my wife recently. I say
“had to” rather than “got to” because she doesn’t travel
nearly as much as I do. She enjoys
figuring things out for herself, its one of the reasons why I love her
dearly. She’s also very headstrong and
she can be as stubborn as a
mule; these are also reasons why I love her, but they’re also reasons why I
don’t always look forward to traveling with her. I wish I could tell her, “Just do what I
do, go where I go, trust me completely, and don’t ask questions.” Hee, heee, I just cracked myself up with that
little pipe dream! Like I could ever get
away with that…
example, we were checking in our suitcase and the agent at the desk told me,
“Sir, your bag is over the limit, it’s too heavy and you’re going to have
to pay the fee.” Now, I knew that
if you’re in first class, they waive the fee.
My wife, blissfully unaware of that fact, smacked me in the back of the
head for being an ostentatious braggart when I said, “We’re in first class
today.” The agent said, “Oh
you’re right, I’m sorry Mr. Walker!”
My wife, stunned, said “Really?” *sigh*
Yes dear… trust me. She was excited about the new rule! My head still hurt though…
she and I get along famously on vacation these days, from
I take her along to interesting places whenever I can and whenever she has the
vacation time. We have some secrets to
alleviate the stresses such a trip can cause.
After all, when you’re both on vacation or on a trip together, neither
one of you are in your “home comfort zone” and things can get
stressful quickly if you don’t make an effort to avoid some hassle.
Here are a
few of our tips:
1) Plan a surprise along the way. It’s exciting to be able to say, “Guess
what honey, I bought the VIP tickets so we’re on the front row!” Or, “we’re not taking a cab, I found us
a water taxi instead!”
2) Keep the pace on an even keel. You might think it would be awesome to see 5
cities in 5 days, but your spouse might not.
Come up with some fancy words phrases that you can use in public that
have private meanings for the both of you.
4) Respect each other’s privacy. On the road, I usually wake up early. If I don’t let her sleep in for an extra
hour, I know she’ll be grumpy and “nappish” in the afternoon. So the rule is, “DO NOT DISTURB” in
the confined space of a hotel room.
5) Go solo!
Just because you’re on vacation doesn’t mean you have to do everything
together. It’s a blast to split up, see
stuff, take pictures, and compare notes later over dinner.