The fourth quality of a true leadership is being able to respect others.
It seems counter intuitive if you’re just into leadership as power, because what some leader wannabe’s want most is to be respected (or feared) by others.
But in order to truly lead, you have to make others feel respected, too. And that means being able to listen and respond to others in a way that makes them feel valued, as well as create a culture of respect in an organization itself.
When I’m trying to remind myself to be respectful, I think of the root word “respectus,” which means, in Latin, “to look.” When we respect others we look at them, listen to them, consider their viewpoints with care. (And one of my favorite definitions of “respect” is ” to avoid violation of or interference with,” as in not harassing, abusing, or otherwise messing with someone.
It doesn’t mean we agree with them; it just means that we don’t automatically dismiss them.
Respect takes time — or rather, it can feel like it takes time. In truth, looking at someone and listening to them takes no more time than brushing them off. It just takes discipline and an open mind (as well as an ability to disengage, respectfully, when necessary.)