As I posted recently, our family is taking on a big change: We are moving back to the east coast.
This has come after some careful consideration. We love the west coast; we just can’t afford the home prices and, besides, all of our family is on the east coast.
So this past few weeks we have spent looking at new homes and thinking about how our lives will change. We have created maps and looked at new schools and talked a lot about how things will be so different in our new home, in a town we do not know.
And how much our little life is going to change.
We have broken the news to our four year old, as we will be leaving in about two months. She has a difficult time with change so we wanted to give her some advanced notice. Plus, she picks up on everything that we say and we wanted her to hear it directly from us that we were moving, and not in some off handed conversation.
Prior to this big news our family had been honed in on our own things. My business has taken up some time (yes, I did say I was going to slow down and I have – a little!), my oldest was wrapping up her first year in preschool and my husband had been incredibly busy with work.
This weekend, though, it hit us: We are leaving.
I made this comment to my husband. “It may be the last time that we go up to Pasadena.”
My husband responded, “We’re going to have a lot of lasts in the next few months.”
And this put everything into perspective.
For some reason, the idea that life is going to really change around here (and out there!) pulled us together. We dropped the things that we felt we had to do individually this weekend and we spent the entire weekend as a family.
We went to story time and made crafts. We stopped at the Prehistoric pet store and looked at the humongous snakes and monitors. We walked down to the nearby bookstore, read a few stories to the kids and picked them up several books (even though we will have to move them-along with the other 800 books my kids and I own-across the country!) We had ice cream, watched a movie together, went to music in the park . . .
It was, in just a few words, such an incredible weekend.
I guess what I realized after having this incredible weekend was how we sometimes need to step back from our everyday existence and realize we don’t need to move across the country to toss aside the responsibilities we think we have, just for one day, and only spend time doing fun things with the family.
I know this, deep down. I understand that our time is short together, our kids are growing fast, and it shouldn’t take a life altering event to make us slow down.
But as you know, we forget. We are busy.
So here is your reminder. Maybe you aren’t moving to the opposite coast. Maybe life is on auto pilot, as we have a tendency to make it in order to get through everything that we have to do. Maybe you haven’t taken your shoes off in quite some time and run through the park grass with barefeet.
Now you should.
Let my post remind you of the importance of family and together time. Get out there today, tomorrow, or next weekend and spend the entire day doing something as a family. When you get back to the daily grind of work and responsibilities, I bet that those memories will keep you chugging through the week, as they have done me.
Some ideas, in case your creative side has been depleted by work:
- picnic in the park
- bike ride through the country
- a day’s getaway to a nearby town, where you can check out something new and have some ice cream
- breakfast out
- kite flying
- frisbee throwing
- a day at the beach
- a hike in the mountains
- kayaking with the dolphins
- a museum
- story time
- local craft activities (our Home Depot offers one each month, as does the library and a teacher’s store)
- board games
- dress up movie night