At least once or twice a week, I would be talking with a manager about their leadership style and how they manage their team. At some point during the conversation, they would mention that they coach their team. I would ask, "Really, that´s great to hear you´re utilizing the coaching model. (Considering this is my profession and a profession that I´m very passionate about, I take the skill of coaching and the industry very literal.) May I ask, where did you get trained as a coach?"
"Oh, I´ve never been formally trained."
"Well, have you worked with a coach yourself?"
You just don´t get it. Now you, my dear reader of this blog, may get it but it´s the other guy who´s not getting it. The person who is not reading this. Possibly, the person in the office next to you. Possibly your boss.
Let me explain. Calling yourself a coach without the proper training and certification is the same as me waking up tomorrow morning and saying, "Today, I´m going to be a doctor, (or a lawyer, or a CPA or a financial planner and so on)."
This is the very mindset that is diluting and corrupting a young, altruistic and rapidly evolving profession. To be an authentic coach, you need to have been coached by a certified coach. To become a certified coach, you need to not only go through an accredited coach training program but you then need to go through the very intense and comprehensive certification process which includes an in-depth evaluation of your coaching skills and competencies not only through both an oral and written exam but additionally through client references and testimonials.
And then, that’s just where it begins. The greatest coaches are the ones who model what is possible for their clients or their employees to achieve. They walk their talk. They model integrity. And they have the experience to back up their coaching. After all, you can’t take someone somewhere you haven’t been yourself.
So, if you´re a coach, whether a practicing coach or an internal coach and you feel your coaching isn´t as effective as it should be or as powerful as you want it to be (as a result of what you’re hearing from the people you are coaching) then it may be less about the coaching process and more about your coaching.