Unfortunately, with all of the resources, news, studies and empirical evidence that demonstrates how traditional management tactics do not work, supporting the need for managers to evolve and change the way they manage to maximize employee productivity and retention, the Toxic Boss still exists out there, causing havoc and making people’s lives miserable. These tyrannical dinosaurs of management still think this is the only way to manage; through the use of force, coercion, threats, fear and consequence. So, what do you do if you love your job but hate your boss? Here are a few ideas:
1. WRITE your JOB Description: Not the one they handed you in the hr package. The one YOU want to design the way you envision what your ideal job would look like, including the specific activities you’d be engaging in daily.
2. Set your BOUNDARIES! (They probably don’t have any set or have no clue what a boundary even is.)
3. STOP TOLERATING: Establish what you are willing to tolerate and what you cannot . Tolerating is ultimately a CHOICE.
4. Check Your INTEGRITY. Ever feel something is just ‘off?’ Could manifest as feeling, a sense, in your gut, your instincts. That’s the feeling you get when you’re out of your integrity. That is, what you do to keep yourself whole and complete and in balance with your world and in check otherwise = > imbalance in all areas of life.
5. LIVE Your Standards: What are the rules and guidelines you live by? How are you being in thought, communication, activities and behavior when you’re fully self-expressed? Your standards are the fabric of your integrity.
6. Manage the FEAR: Either you’re running away from what you don’t want or being pulled by the goal and vision of what you want to create most for your self in your career and your life. The fact is, your fears aren’t real but your making important life decisions as if they were.
7. COACH UP! Learn how to coach your supervisor or boss. Speak with you boss about how you want to be managed, re-train people how they can respond to you in a healthier non toxic way.
8. Get Your NEEDS MET: Here’s a paradox: The very place that the majority of the people on the planet go to get their personal needs met is at the office. Ironically, you can’t get your PERSONAL needs met at work but how many people do you know who define themselves by their career? Time for a MindShift and my favorite four words. It’s Only a Job. If you know someone who thrives and needs to be acknowledged in order to function at their best, it’s time to go deeper and get that need met-permanently so you can transition to being driven by your values, instead of your needs.