Did you recharge your batteries over the holidays? Maybe you kicked back and watched some TV. I spent the holidays with my in-laws (No, it wasn’t horrible. I’m one of the lucky ones who enjoys spending time with in-laws). My mother-in-law is a news junkie so the TV is on most of the time tuned in to a news show. I got to see a bunch of shows with the topic of new year’s resolutions. If I didn’t know any better I would think that every woman in America makes new year’s resolutions to lose weight. I got so tired of hearing about it. I don’t want you to think that I’m advocating the daily donut diet. I’m not. I do think there are other things that women in business can resolve to do better this year.
I am going to focus on promoting myself more. I have to better quantify the results I’m bringing my clients. I also have to rewrite my bio to reflect the volunteer boards that I’m serving on. What about you? At your next review will you remember all the things you did this year to increase your company’s revenues or to deliver excellent results? Probably not. Instead, why not keep a file during the year. Every time you do something that you would like to remember at your review, write it down and put the note in the file. Then when it’s time for your review, you will have a complete account of all the good work you’ve done. You could even volunteer to write your own review. Your boss will probably appreciate that.
I would like more women to accept all compliments better. If I had a nickel for every time I heard a woman receive a compliment and respond, “No problem” I would be a wealthy woman. Instead, I wish they would say, “It was my pleasure or thank you.” What do you say? It would be even better if you say, “I’m glad I was able to help you generate a great proposal (or whatever your work did.) Reinforce what you’ve done when you respond to the compliment. Too many women work hard and don’t get credit. Don’t let that be you.
Here’s another resolution that I’ve made. I’m going to say “no” more. As I look back on 2008 I realize that a lot of the stress that I experienced had to do with saying “yes” to time commitments when I should have said “no.” I know it’s hard to do sometimes. Yet, here’s a strategy that seems to work for me. I sat down and determined what I enjoyed. The people that I enjoy working with are ones who are clear about their mission and organized with their approach to accomplish it. When scope creep takes over projects and the leadership is disorganized, that frustrates me. I first realized that I could say no to requests and then finally I did. What time commitments do you have that are frustrating you? You too can resolve to say “no” more in 2009.