My mother´s unexpected death occurred 10 days ago but the wounds in my heart feel fresh and sting sharp. Along with grieving her loss, I am hell bent on having some good come of this. She would have wanted me to make something good of this.
It is common that people reevaluate their lives and priorities when they lose a loved one or witness a death. I am in this process, too. Some of these thoughts are personal, but many relate to business and so I am sharing them with you in the event they are helpful.
1. Pettiness is waste. Life is too short to let disagreements or differences of style get in the way of our relationships. Don´t go there — don´t stay there. Be mellow and loving. For managers and leaders, this is especially important because we impact the tone of the work environment. We all have idiosyncrasies and drive people crazy. Don´t go crazy. Don´t judge. I had already been moving in this direction, but I am now squarely in this space.
2. Don´t put it off. Living "in order to" do something can backfire. Tomorrow never comes, there´s only today. You have heard the saying, "be here now." I would also say, "be THERE now." The THERE being where you want to be in life. Be your future today. This is a tough one for me. I have lived most of my life in the mode of do now in order to arrive where I want to go tomorrow. My business needs some reshaping"?¦.I need to live more frugally so that I can have more fun and leisure NOW, not just plan to do that later or in retirement.
3. Find your space and fill it with passion, not stuff. Having a comfortable and inspiring home setting is important. Beyond that, stuff is just stuff. We covet stuff. Collect stuff. Store our extra stuff to make room for more stuff. Stuff is not life and it does not enhance life. Get rid of your excess stuff — at home and at work. As a former yuppie, this one trips me up a lot. I love cars, motorcycles, Airstreams, stuff, stuff, stuff, blah, blah, blah. My husband and I have seven computers between us — it´s crazy.
4. Determine what you love to do and then do it. Life is too short to stay in a job or business that does not light up your life. If you need to adjust your lifestyle to afford to do the work you love, so be it. You will be happier and with less stuff and more fulfillment. I was doing pretty good here, but had recently let my interest and passion for the southwest take a back seat to getting a few more business clients. I need to prioritize exploring how to combine these interests a bit better. I will be writing more on Chile Pepper High and will pick back up on the travelogue book project. Also, I would like to emphasize my writing more and perhaps even get a part-time or regular contract gig writing. I am booked up through July, but will be looking for projects beginning in August.