It’s tough for me to admit it but my mom helped me land a summer job while I was in college by making the phone call in response to the posting. She pretended to be me! Before cell phones and monthly plans it was harder to connect. I recovered by interviewing and landing the position. Mom never stood in for me again.
What Time Will You Be Home for Dinner?
I cut the apron strings pretty early with the criteria for my fist real post-college job to include a location, with a salary that I could live in my own apartment, by myself. It worked I moved out of my parents’ home within weeks of graduation and rented my own apartments for the next two moves. A promotion and transfer brought me within 20 miles of my childhood home in an expensive part of the country so it seemed to make sense to bunk in and take my time looking for my place. My mom took a business trip and upon her return starting asking me about work days and what time I would be home for dinner. I sped up my search and moved out within three weeks.
Millennials More Likely to Move Back Home
The cost of living has been forcing twenty somethings back to childhood bedrooms for a number of years, economic uncertainty has made the pattern more likely and longer lasting. There is ample advice available about making this arrangement workable for all of the housemates. Charge rent, set rules, allocate food, require savings etc.Cell phones have made one part of the sharing more bearable, the kids are no longer hogging the phone line.
My Parents Told Me to Find More Fulfilling Work
Sharing living space is one thing but too many children are using parents as decision makers. I am frequently surprised by tales I hear of parental involvement in the workplace. Parents have shown up at job interviews, they can’t substitute for the candidate in person, and tried to negotiate offers.Young employees have reported dissatisfaction and said, “I’m going to talk this over with my parents,” only to return and resign stating that their parents told them to find work that is a better use of their talents.It’s beyond time for helicopter parents to back off. Just because they have unlimited cell phone time available between parent and child it does not mean that it gets used four times a day in the office for constant updates. I dropped my 15 year old off at the door for his summer
job interview and left the rest to him. OK I did help him fill out
The next time an employee invokes the opinion of mom or dad sit them down and tell them it’s grown-up time now, give advice on making decisions and moving forward. Even if they want to continue seeking the advice, fine, just don’t announce it. Parents don’t need to be in the loop unless of course they are customers or clients!