Ladies, when was the last time you heard some genuine words of encouragement and congratulations from another woman? I hope you aren’t smirking right now. You might be because hearing kind words and getting support from another female may be scarcer for you than a natural blond in a beauty contest. It shouldn’t be that way, but it is. This sort of nastiness is crazy. Ladies, what’s with all the frenemies?
Simple routines in business can get really complicated. What’s a shame is when business gets complicated when it doesn’t have to be. You are going to be part of the give and take of working together when you are part of a team. You say you’ll do something and other people expect that you’ll honor your word. It should only be that simple.
One woman was scheduled to pick up important papers from another female manager. The first woman arrived on time and the second woman’s assistant announced her arrival. The task was a simple transfer of documents. It could have been accomplished with a three minute review of the package and everyone would be on their way. That’s not what happened.
The first woman sat for an hour and a half waiting for the second woman to get out of her office and give her the papers. That was even with the first woman asking the second woman’s assistant to intervene. The assistant came back several times with, “It’ll just be a minute.”
Are you wondering what went on? The second woman was simply flexing her positional power and making the first woman wait. She didn’t like the woman and was going to show her how unimportant she was. Sure, the first woman could have left, but she really needed the papers.
Then there are the discussions that women have with each other about other women’s “offensive” clothing. If that’s not enough, I’ve heard of women complaining to management about other women not being team players and that’s when they were team players.
Come on ladies. It’s bad enough to hear the snide remarks that some men make about women in business. I’ve even had a vice president of human resources ask me in a job interview if I were planning on having any more children. That question is illegal by the way. It doesn’t matter. It is still being asked in too many job interviews.
It’s bad that some men are clueless enough to ask those offensive questions and make other thoughtless remarks. It’s far worse that women are behaving horridly to other women. There are enough road blocks placed in women’s paths to success by men that women don’t need to add to them.
What can you do when you have a problem with another coworker? Talk to that person directly. It doesn’t matter if that person is male or female. Don’t talk about that person to other people. Don’t fall to a low level of pettiness just because you can.