Courtesy of the renowned Mayo Clinic comes an article on the importance of saying NO.
It is a common side effect of the modern world and our contemporary struggles to be stretched thin, to have too much on your plate, to be overworked and under-appreciated. Hell, this may be a common complaint in the human condition, but life past 40 also used to be a miracle. It’s amazing what we get used to and accept without much reflection or direct action.
This is why saying no needs to be a learned and appreciated for what it can do for your life. Taking on every project and request that comes down the pipe is, well, just bad news for wellbeing. According to the Mayo Clinic:
- Saying no can be good for you, as you’ll be able to spend time on the things you really need to or want to.
- Similarly, saying no can allow you to try new things, as it will free up time to pursue other hobbies or interests.
- Yes isn’t always the best answer.
- Say no to let those around you step up and come through.
Weigh the pros and cons. Is the request a short- or long-term commitment? If an activity is going to end up being a long term source of stress in your life, just say no. Also it is important to keep your current commitments.
Furthermore, don’t go overboard. If your To Do list is long enough, learn to keep it so.
But let go of guilt. Do what you’ve set out to do or you’ll only gain more stress, not glory.
If your that torn, after eschewing guilt and weighing your commitments, sleep on it. Take a day to think over the request and respond after you’ve been able to assess your current commitments as well as the new opportunity.
When you do say no, use full disclosure. Don’t lie, but let your boss, spouse, or friend down gently.