A while back I wrote a column about the difference between men and women managers, and in the article I told of a speaker I had heard that explained that women tend to be more on the tell you everything side while men are more direct when they need things done. Women might say, “I like that shirt. Can you have this done by three?” whereas a man typically skips compliments and tells what needs to be done. Of course, not all men are one way and not all women are the other, and I don’t like to stereotype, but I do believe that men and women are different and that this does come to play when managing employees, or even in regular employee relations.
I’ve been writing for two different companies lately: one, a print publication, and the other an online site. The print publication is run by a man and the online site by a woman.
I’ve been working with the print publication longer, and so far all I know is the manager’s name and where he is located. I’ve received a few emails with assignments and we spoke on the phone one time. I don’t know if he is married, single, has children, owns a home, or likes pizza. He’s never really complimented my work, or given much direction on it at all, but simply sends my assignments with contact information and deadlines and then writes out a check when I’m done.
The woman? I feel like I’ve known her for years. She is 31, really wants children, is not married and hasn’t been dating much, works a lot, needs to lose twenty pounds (according to her), has a twin sister, and lives in an apartment in the Hollywood area. We’ve discussed meeting up for a glass of wine at some point. She tells me how much she likes my style of writing and the pieces that I submit and she talks about future projects when I’m still working on current ones. I know I will have projects with her company for quite some time to come.
Yes, men and women are different, and women tend to gab while men tend to be more direct. My friend, a man, tells me stories about the women that he works with: how they share tales about their children and husbands and compliment one another on purses, shoes, and outfits. He says men don’t do this. He says they would never say, “Hey Greg, nice shirt.”
Does the difference matter? Not really, as long as we as women can understand that just because we are not being complimented does not mean that we are not doing a good job. At times I wonder if the first publication likes my work, but I continue to get work so for now I’m going to say that yes, all is well, even if the boss doesn’t ask to see pictures of my daughters.
Have a great Thursday, moms!