Most days I chug along not thinking about the things I am doing but doing them because, well, that is my schedule and I do them that way each day.
I wake at 5. I either run or I work.
My kids wake at 7. We eat breakfast. We watch a show. We take the big one to school and the little one to Mommy and Me or we go to the park or the mall or the beach.
We eat lunch.
Okay, I won’t bore you with the rest of my schedule, but let’s just say that we flow along fairly regularly from task to task, from activity to activity, and then it is nighttime and they are asleep and I work some more before falling into bed around 11.
Yesterday I gathered the mail and glanced down at my newest running magazine. Great, I thought, I’ll stick this in the bathroom so I can read through it during the course of a day.
Do you see the problem with this?
The only time I stop to do something for myself is when I have to stop; like, when I have to go to the bathroom. (And of course I’m not alone then, as my three year old is generally telling me that she wants to paint her toenails or brush my hair).
A study conducted by Salary.com shows that mothers generally put in a 92 hour workweek. 92! This means that each day we are working, on average, just over 13 hours.
This seems impossible-how can anyone put in that much time a day-but if you stop to think about all that you do, and how much of it you do, and how often, and without any breaks, you realize just how little time you have to relax and how much time is spent at work.
According to this survey, which you have probably already read or heard about, if we were to be paid for the time that we put in we would make over $138,000 per year. (If you haven’t read it, you can view the article here).
I don’ t know about you, but I’m not making anywhere near that salary!
So my goal this week is to stop each day and spend half an hour doing something for myself, whether it is practicing yoga, watching a show or reading a magazine (and NOT when I’m already seated in the bathroom!)
During my quiet time:
- The computer can not be attached to my hands
- The phone cannot be attached to my ear
- I cannot be paying bills or clipping coupons while watching the show
- A child cannot be attached to my hip, arm, leg or other body part
So, make sure that you, too, are taking half an hour a day (at least!) doing something that you enjoy. If you have to get out of the house to do it, then go! Join a yoga class, take a walk or visit with friends. Just make sure that you are spending some time on yourself and lowering that workday to 12 hours instead of thirteen!