I posted about Oprah´s show a few weeks ago, and how she was going to speak to some working mothers to see if they felt they could have it all. It was an interesting show, and of course they had stay at home moms and working mothers sounding off against each other, which I have to say that I hate to see. In my opinion, all mothers, if they can afford to do so, should be able to do what they wish: work or stay at home. I have no hatred toward those who choose to do something other than I since we all have to make choices that work for our own families.
The one key thing that I noted from the show (and there were many interesting aspects, some of which I will write about in future posts) was that at one point someone mentioned that a working mother or a staying at home mother can be "checked out´, which is not good for anyone in the family. In other words, it doesn´t matter if you choose to work or you stay at home; it matters how you feel and what you are doing while you are there.
I hadn´t thought of it before, but how true is that? If you are checked out of what you are doing, does it even matter what you are doing? Someone on the show mentioned that you can be a stay at home mom but you can be so checked out that you are not there emotionally most of the time. If you are unhappy and lonely, you aren´t doing a service to your kids by being at home with them everyday.
The same goes for working mothers. They can be working while at work and then working when they are at home, mentally running through a list of things that they have to get done by a certain time. If this is going on with you when you get home, you, too, are checked out.
So take a few moments today to determine if you are feeling a little checked out lately. Do you have so much work that when you are at home with your children you are constantly thinking of something else? If so, make a conscious effort to leave work at work. If you work at home, don´t check that email throughout the day. If you work outside of the home, leave your thoughts at the office door when you close it at the end of the night. It´s important that as working mothers we devote the time that we have with our children to our children. So make a decision to do this if you have been feeling a little "over the top´ lately. Your family will be grateful for it, and so will you!
Happy Wednesday, Moms!