I read an article about the trend of working mothers this weekend in Orange Coast Magazine. One line caught my eye. A mother stated that she doesn’t define herself completely by the fact that she is a mother or a professional but that she is both and even more.
I love that definition. Oftentimes it seems that working mothers feel guilty that they are working or even that they (gasp!) enjoy work. When I first began freelance writing and web design after my first daughter was about six months old, I had huge feelings of guilt when, during the day, I actually looked forward to nap time so I could sit down at the computer and work. I felt that I should want to spend every available minute of my time with my daughter and have no other outside entertainment that would make me happy. I struggled with this for quite some time until one day the light bulb went off: I was a great mother when I was with my daughter because I did other things that also made me happy. I realized then that numerous things defined who I was, and that this was okay.
I also love the fact that this definition states that the mother is even more than these two, as we always talk about work and career as though these are our only two elements. We are mothers and we are employers or employees, but we are more than that: we are runners, artists, singers, dancers. We are readers and painters. We are knitters. Many terms may define us. What defines you? If you haven’t pursued any outside interests in years, stop and think: What did define you? And can you go back and pick that up again now?
As you go through this week, be the best worker bee you can be, and when the work door shuts be the best mom that you can be, and when you have the time alone, be the best of all of the other things that are you. Don’t forget about that even more part of you, which you may have given up once you started a family and burrowed into your career. This even more side will oftentimes get your creative juices flowing, which will in turn add light to every other aspect of your life. We can’t be completely one thing; we are made of a million little pieces, so this week, make sure that you are satisfying all of them (or as many as you can cram into your free time!).
Happy Tuesday, Moms!