A client of mine recently emailed me an audio file to listen to. It was another coach sharing their perspective around the Law of Attraction and the role it plays in our lives. After listening to this audio clip, my reaction was, from the five story view, I’d say that I have full mindshare around this concept. After all, I am certainly an advocate of the Principle of Attraction – to a point!
I remember about seven years ago being interviewed for an article in a coach magazine on the power of attraction. You see, while the power of attraction can have a profound impact on your life as it relates to how you can manage your mindset to achieve your most precious goals and attract that which matters most to you, there is a loophole. If not managed correctly, the law of attraction can quickly evolve into a list of excuses, justifications and reasons for not taking action instead of assuming full accountability for your life and everything in it. In other words, attraction without the action to support what you want to achieve and create most is a diversionary tactic. It gives a person permission not to take action and instead, sit on your couch and eat potato chips, just waiting for the power of your intentions to manifest into what you really want most.
There’s another Attraction principle worth challenging. Attraction suggests to, “Continually do what you’re currently doing. Stay detached from the outcome. There’s no need to change things up until the perfect opportunity presents itself. And if you find resistance to any activities in pursuit of your goal, it’s the wrong activity or the wrong goal.”
I fully agree with not having any attachments around the outcome. (As a coach, this is the #1 principle you need to master to become an effective coach.) However, this is dangerous coaching to give to some people – especially those people who are very literal. Moreover, it is this type of thinking that fuels the sense of American Entitlement that is destroying the fabric of our society.
After all, the pendulum of extremities swings to both sides. While I agree you certainly don’t want to ‘force’ a goal or an outcome, which could be a sign that it’s the wrong goal or wrong outcome, I also feel that if you truly do believe in something, you need to push through certain things, such as procrastination, so that you can do what you know you need to do in order to achieve your goals, regardless of whether or not you want to do them. I know thousands of salespeople who want to make more money and close more deals. However it doesn’t mean they want to prospect or cold call in order to do so. They may have to engage in the activity of cold calling in order for them to get to where they want to be.