Part II of Interview with “Bounce!” author Barry Moltz (Read Part I)
Barry also shared his own unique perspective on fear.
“Fear is okay. Our culture says not to be afraid, that fear is for cowards. But that’s silly. How can we be comfortable with the unknown? We can strive to control our fear. We can never make the butterflies go away, but we can have them fly in formation. If we’re pushing forward, fear is going to be there.”
One of Barry’s own fears is not uncommon: he hates to fly. But he informed me that he’s required to for his job.
“I fly every single week, one hundred weeks a year. I can’t get over my fear, but I can handle it. I made a playlist called ‘Turbulence Tunes’ and I play it every time I’m uncomfortable in the air. Sure enough, I eventually got over my fear.”
The book “Bounce” also describes how to gain confidence, the opposite attribute of fear.
“I always advise individuals to set minimum goals, interim goals. When you achieve these small goals, it will give you the confidence to achieve larger ones. View your path in terms of small successes. I’ve rarely walked a straight line to success – rather it’s a zigzag, as you bounce from one action point to another,” said Barry.
I found an interesting quote on Barry’s website, which he later asserted to be “the words he lives by”.
“Love everyone, trust a few, and paddle your own canoe.”
“I believe that we should try to be open to helping everyone and receiving help from them. But at the same time, I also believe that there are few people who we should bring into our inner circle, our inner sanctum. Plato once said that we should only have as many friends as we can count on one hand.”
And the final line, “paddle your own canoe” is in reference to a myth inventors often hold. “
“We sometimes erroneously think,” Barry said, “that someone is going to save us. That someone is going to give us money or a miracle is going to occur. In reality, we make our own luck and we make our own victories. We are responsible for the progress we make.”
I agree with the statement – it makes a lot sense in my life.
I highly recommend the book “Bounce”, especially if you’re struggling with the unknown and how to move forward. Check it out!