Last Thursday, I heard Stephen Covey talk here in Seattle. The purpose of his talk was to reveal and discuss his 8th Habit of Highly Successful People. His new book, The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness comes out in November and is available for pre-order here on Amazon.
Here is the third installment of gems from this talk.
Reminder of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
1. Be proactive.
2. Begin with the end in mind.
3. Put first things first.
4. Think win-win.
5. Seek first to be understand, then to be understood.
7. Sharpen the saw.
And now we have the 8th habit which is: Find your voice and inspire others to find theirs.
Part of inspiring others to find their voice is to facilitate learning. Here´s why Covey says it is so effective to improve learning by having others teach the new information/skills.
1. Teaching is a more effective way to learn because you internalize and conceptualize more fully when you know you will be teaching. Covey shared these numbers at the seminar.
How we learn:
50% See and Hear
2. Teaching motivates us to learn.
3. Teaching teaches us to listen.
4. Teaching makes changes legitimate.
5. Teaching is bonding – we build our relationships.
Covey talked about how he learned of the Indian Talking Stick when working with Native American Tribes. These tribes used a talking stick to ensure that each party was able to express themselves and feel listened to. Here´s how the talking stick us used:
Bob hands the talking stick to Sasha. Sasha shares her point and perspective. When she feels Bob has heard and understands what she has said, she will hand the talking stick to Bob (and not until). Bob will not interject his opinions or point of view until he is holding the stick. This goes on until both/all parties have said what they need to say and feel heard.
The Indian Talking Stick produces bonding and 3rd alternatives (a term that Covey uses to mean a new idea, not yours, not mine, but a third alternative).
Try the Indian Talking Stick method of communication for yourself!
Tomorrow I will share more Covey gems including information about the Statue of Responsibility and how the Industrial Model of management and leadership is a root cause of many of today´s problems.