I thought I would save our sanity for last, since it seems to be the most difficult thing for us to find time to save!
I know that when times get hectic at our house, I’m always making sure that –
- Dinner is served
- Children are clean
- Clothes are washed
- Floors are swept
I’m not, however, making sure that Mommy is Mentally Sane!
I believe this is one priority we as mothers have to make and the one priority as mothers that we never take time to make!
Why is that?
I remember the old adage, “If momma ain’t happy . . . ” and it is the truth.
If we are running around trying to answer the phone, respond to emails, write reports for work, wash up the dinner dishes, play with the kids, make time for the husband, and the many other jobs we have to do, yet we are not taking twenty minutes or so each day (just twenty!) to read a book, sit in meditation, get in some exercise, or do something equally important to our inner selves, then we are not doing a good job.
You can’t be good for others if you aren’t good for yourself.
We know this. We try to tell our kids this (get your sleep, eat well, you have to take care of your bodies!) and yet there we are, super-caffeinated and ready to explode because we just cant to make it through the task we are doing so we can move on to the next task.
I’m no exception to this frantic rule. The other day I found myself so wired on Famous Coffee and my own home brewed concoction that I told my youngest daughter I might fly right through the ceiling of the house. (It was, however, funny to note her reaction – a quick glance up with wide eyes!) Did I get everything in that day? Yes, I did. Was i totally exhausted that night? Yes, I was. Shorter on patience, and ready to end the day. Not a good way to , well, end the day.
We have to take time to slow down and care for ourselves, so here are some tips for you busy working mothers who really need some reorganization of the mind and home to do just this!
Laura Stack, President of The Productivity Pro and Vice President of National Speakers Association, offers this advice in an excerpt of an article she wrote entitled, “Find More Time: How to Get Things Done at Home, Organized Your Life, and Feel Great About It.”
- Revisit your childhood. She says to do things you loved to do as a child – like reading a good book (remember those hours upon hours you once spent discovering and devouring Nancy Drew novels?) Or wander in the woods like you once did, watching wildlife and enjoying the quiet.
- Pamper yourself. Do it for a day! Get a massage, a facial, a haircut or your nails done without carrying the kids along. Stack does this each month and says, “Do what you love, whether it’s a manicure or a bike ride or round of
golf. The money invested is well worth the decreased stress level you
- Get rid of the guilt. This to me is a huge one. We always feel guilty about things that we do or don’t do. Why is this? And what can you do to make yourself stop? Says Stack, I find that women, especially, have been programmed to sacrifice
everything in the name of what’s good and right for everyone else. If
there’s anything left over, they get the scraps.”
Stack goes on to write that you can’t give what you don’t have. How true is this? When we are running on empty, everyone suffers – so taking the time to take care of yourself is imperative, not selfish or something to feel guilty about.