The foundation of developing real Business EQ is self awareness, because it is only by understanding our feelings, motivations, and triggers that we’re able to regulate our own behavior, accurately perceive others’ behavior, and decide on the best course of action in any given situation.
Self awareness isn’t always easy to come by. In the best of circumstances, we’re raised by parents who teach us to identify, accept, and express our emotions appropriately. In the absence of that, we may learn to be self aware by spending time with mentors, therapists, teachers or other wise adults who coach us. Spiritual practices help some people; reading and/or writing helps some; hiking, biking, or hanging out on river banks helps still others.
For most of us, self awareness is a lifelong journey.
However you come to it—and however long it takes you—self awareness is key because you need to know what you’re feeling in order to decide how best to act.
You also need self awareness in order to accurately assess what your strengths and weaknesses are. E.g., Perhaps you’re an ace at computer programming, but your people skills are a bit weak. Or maybe you’re a design whiz, but not the best leader, or you’re a fabulous team leader, but not so hot at project organization,
Some people are afraid to really look at their emotions and assess their strengths and weaknesses. But doing so actually makes you a stronger worker — and a more confident one.