Management Craft reader Steve Roesler offers this review of The Anatomy of Peace by the Arbinger Institute.
"Lasting solutions to our outward conflicts are possible only to the extent that we find real solutions to our inner ones."
I don’t like books that use fictional characters to narrate a story designed to teach an object lesson. When I first opened the book and saw the format, I groaned. After three pages, I couldn’t put the book down.
Because it delivers on the "how-to’s" of the lasting solutions to conflicts: at work, at home, and among nations.
Yusuf al-Falah, an Arab, and Avi Rozen, a Jew, each lost his father at the hands of members of the other’s ethnic group. The Anatomy of Peace relates the story of how they came together, how they enable struggling parents and their children to come together and, as a result, how you and I can find our own way out of the conflicts that burden us.
Because the parents in the book are attending a workshop, you’ll soon feel as if you are in the room and part of the group. Yusuf and Avi are the facilitators and transform the reader’s thinking through the use of self-disclosure, clear models, and probing questions. The book moves quickly and offers "aha!" moments on nearly every page.
But the "ahas!" aren’t comfortable. The underlying premise of the book rests on the proposition that each of us–as a result of our way of being and seeing–is responsible for conflict. The good news? We can literally change our ways of being and seeing using the models provided. The result: hearts that are at peace instead of hearts that are at war.
If this doesn’t sound like a typical business book, it isn’t. And for that reason it’s important. Behavioral management has consistently fallen short of its purported effectiveness. The reason? Without changing our ways of being, the workplace is–at best– filled with short-term behavioral change following performance appraisals.
All professional development is personal development. For that reason I strongly recommend The Anatomy of Peace. You’ll know what you need to change about your way of being. The choice will be yours.
Wow – I need to read this one. Ahas on every page? Sounds great. Thanks Steve for sharing your inspiring impressions!