Fail to Fail or Make Fear Your Greatest Ally

An article in Selling Power magazine caught my eye, it was under their 'motivation' section of articles in their archivers. The article was entitled, "Failure: Your Stepping Stone to Success."

While we may have heard that we should 'learn from our mistakes and failures,' are we actually doing so? Unless profound change occurs we're learning on a very superficial level. We need to Deepen our Learning. Many of us consider learning the act of acquiring new information. The fact is, learning happens every moment of our lives. It isn't just about assimilating knowledge but recognizing the lesson in every experience, even the value in every message that each person shares with us, growing from it and moving onto a more productive path. While we draw into our life that which we need to learn, we often resist the lessons in front of us, since we may associate "learning the lesson" either as a result of doing something wrong as a child or a chore we have to finish. (If you touch a hot stove you'll get burned. Do your homework, or you'll be punished.)

As adults, this feeling fostered in our youth perpetuates, often blinding us to the valuable lessons that show up. Ask yourself, "When handling a problem, is it permanently eliminated or does it reappear?" If so, you didn't get the lesson the fist time around or you missed out on a subtle, new opportunity/solution presented to you by someone that you didn't allow to contribute to you. Consider every person you draw into your life has something, some message to share. Become more sensitized to the value in the message, without discounting the messenger. To evolve, allow each experience, even every person you come in contact with, to leave you with a gift and teach you a lesson that brings value into your life.

I've also written an article entitled, "Become Fearless: The Nine Steps to Managing Fear and Making It Your Ally." I think you'll enjoy it. Plus it gives you some tactical steps to help reframing fear in your mind which in turn will help in identifying and upgrading the current relationship you have with fear to make it one of your greatest teachers.