Maria Shriver recently appeared on Oprah as a guest. She was very interesting, and began talking about how once her job as a news correspondent ended-she was asked to step down when her husband, Arnold, became governor of California-she began to feel a little lost.
Maria identified herself with her role, with her working mother status. She loved that she could be both a mother and a person who went out into the workforce and did what she wanted to do.
Once that was gone, she was a bit lost.
She started considering things that she needed to do to begin establishing her identity once more, and she realized that she spent a lot of time introducing herself or thinking of herself as, "Just a . . ."
You know the scenario. If you haven't said it, I bet that you have met someone who has.
"What do you do?" they ask.
You answer, "I'm just a (put in your noun here: mother, wife, secretary, teacher, doctor)."
At times, we see our roles as so insignificant that we can't even say, "I'm a (fill in that blank again)." We have to precede the statement with the word just, which really reduces who we are.
If you find yourself interjecting that four letter word 'just' in front of who you are, it's time to take a step back and take stock in who you are.
We are never 'just' not matter what we are doing.
We always just Are.