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Never Say, "I'm Just a..."

Wednesday, April 23 2008
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Kathy Murdock

 Maria Shriver recently appeared on Oprah as a guest. She was very interesting, and began talking about how once her job as a news correspondent ended-she was asked to step down when her husband, Arnold, became governor of California-she began to feel a little lost.

Maria identified herself with her role, with her working mother status. She loved that she could be both a mother and a person who went out into the workforce and did what she wanted to do.

Once that was gone, she was a bit lost.

She started considering things that she needed to do to begin establishing her identity once more, and she realized that she spent a lot of time introducing herself or thinking of herself as, "Just a . . ."

You know the scenario. If you haven't said it, I bet that you have met someone who has.

"What do you do?" they ask.

You answer, "I'm just a (put in your noun here: mother, wife, secretary, teacher, doctor)."

At times, we see our roles as so insignificant that we can't even say, "I'm a (fill in that blank again)." We have to precede the statement with the word just, which really reduces who we are.

If you find yourself interjecting that four letter word 'just' in front of who you are, it's time to take a step back and take stock in who you are.

We are never 'just' not matter what we are doing.

We always just Are.

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I saw Maria on the Today show and she was talking about this as well. She had a funny story about her son. When being introduced to someone in front of her son, he stated that she was a housewife. She said she was appalled at first. Not that she thought being a housewife was not a full time and fulfilling job, she just had never considered herself a housewife. Later, upon asking her son about his remark, he simply stated that's what she was. She told him, "No, I'm a journalist. Then, no, I'm a First Lady." Her son looked at her and said, "No, mom, that's what you used to be. Now you're a housewife." She brought up a great point after this and stated that we all grow and change throughout our lives and no matter what we do, we should never be "just" anything. I agree. Be proud and enjoy what you do. There is someone else out there who would love to be doing what you're doing. Remember that.
By: Kim Shuford on 4/23/08 at 10:57 PM
Never Say, "I'm Just a..."
Someone would love to be doing what you are doing. I love that! It is so true. And how many times do we get to do what it is that we want to do and then after a bit of time want something else?!
By: Kathy Murdock on 4/28/08 at 8:44 AM
Never Say, "I'm Just a..."
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