Who doesn't get it? Me!

David Maister nails it:

The crucial first step - taking ownership and responsibility when you feel that you are not being well understood - is a huge challenge for most of us, personally and professionally. How often have you had a disagreement with a family member, only to give up in frustration when they "just won't listen to you" or "see your point of view?"



Yet only by taking responsibility for the effectiveness of our communications can we obtain the influence or the results that we want. We have to stop attributing blame, and start viewing the situation as a problem to be solved. We have to learn to get people to engage with us, not just take opposing sides.