I completely agree!

I've been in meetings where the designated leader is optimistic and in meetings where the designated leader is pessimistic. It's like apples and oranges! In fact, I think a pessimistic leader can really be destructive, because that attitude so quickly saps people of morale, vision, and a strong sense of can-doism.

Thanks for posting!

It takes a lot of self awareness...

Hi Gokarn, I'm going to respond here (and not just to your email) because I think other readers might have a similar question.

I think you're asking why it can be hard to keep showing respect to others -- is that right? I would say that learning to respect others -- and I mean truly respect them, from deep down inside -- is a matter of personal development. And if you're having trouble, it's a great area to explore! It may be fear that's stopping you (feeling more secure, for example, when you dismiss someone than when you treat them like an equal). It may be old anger. It may be something else -- only you can know.

You can try to figure it out on your own. Or you can consult with a psychotherapist or religious leader. (I'm not sure where you're writing from and so am not sure what's available or culturally acceptable to you.)

The main point is that all the qualities involved in emotional intelligence (and leadership) take time to develop and involve no small amount of self exploration and growth. All of us struggle with some of them -- no one has mastered all of them.

But just knowing that you're having trouble with one area shows that you're self aware enough to work on the issue -- that's a key aspect of emotional intelligence!

The Glass is Half Full ...

I have been told that I am an eternal optimist. I always try to find the good in any given situation and try not to dwell on the down side of everything. The media drives me crazy in this respect because they have the ability to fuel the nation's emotions, one way or the other, and they always choose the downside.
But in work, I stay positive and extend that optimism to my employees. I can tell the difference in them before and after one of our discussions and the positive influence that I can bring. It's a great motivator for them, and for me as well!

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hi madam i am glad to study what you have written.But i want to tell you something i mean want to ask ? why it's really difficult to continue any practices suppose i take example of your word "respectus" it is very good to start in the same way but really hard to continue the same . so please reply me at kalmkaran@gmail.com ...

"true" leadership ...

The problem with your example of the PTA president is multifaceted, one a title doesn't guarantee a TRUE leadership position...2nd, true leaders are not sensitive!! Their vision is their driving force and not placating individuals or popularity!!! I would also add, visualization is more important then vision. Bill Gates visualized having a PC on every desk and a massive market emerged due to that visualization. He saw it, visualizing it in his head, knowing the reality was on its way!!!

Dirk Gorman
Founding Partner
Empire Surgical
www.empiresurgical.com ...